Wednesday, January 4, 2017
FOMO or Boredom?
Last week my husband sent me this video about millennials, if you have a few minutes, you should check it out. I'm not a millennial, as I was born in 1979, but Simon Sinek spends part of the time talking about Social Media and technology and he had some pretty interesting and eye-opening things to say.
Evidently dopamine is released when we engage in social media and receive text messages. We "feel good" and get a temporary high-the same as a person who is addicted to drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol. The problem is, it goes away, so to get it back you have to engage n the same behavior over and over again. I'm definitely not crazy about this comparison. Yikes?
It makes me think about my own Social Media habits. Is it FOMO or simply boredom? For myself, I tend to think it's boredom and a habit, akin to biting one's nails. On the surface, it might not be "that bad," but who really wants to show off those nail bitten hands?
Simon also mentioned how if you are with friends or at a meeting and on your phone, you're sending an subconscious message that the people you are with aren't worthy of all your attention. Yikes! I find myself really guilty of scrolling through Facebook and Instagram when I'm with the kids. The thing is, I can't even tell you the last thing I saw on Facebook that was actually important, so why do I keep on scrolling???? I admit I do enjoy Instagram, but I only follow like 70 people, do I really need to scroll though it mindlessly as often as I do???
Studies show that people who spend more time on Facebook tend to be more depressed. We've become so good at "creating" these images of what our lives are like that can have a tendency to only show the good stuff. I can take a picture of the book I'm currently reading along with my coffee cup on our kitchen table. It's all neat and clean, but what you don't see is that that rest of the table is covered with crumbs from Hannah's breakfast and about a million of Grant's Legos. I showed a pretty picture, but not the whole picture and as we scroll though Social Media my assumption is that we all do this to a certain extent. However, if we don't recognize that it can lead of the comparison game and then depression.
So, where to go from here? It's a habit I have to break. I want to work to be fully engaged when I'm with the kids and leave checking social media to a few times a day. I've got to stop "biting my nails," so to speak. The people that really matter in our lives aren't the ones we only see through our screens; they are sitting right beside us. Social media can be great for staying connected with those we love who live far away, but it's not intended to be the time suck or comparison monster it's morphing in to.
Philippians 4:8 says we are to focus on whatever is true, honorable, pure, lovely, and gracious. This is my verse I'm planning to meditate on this year, and these are the things I need to focus on. This is how I should focus my time and energy.
What do you think? Do you have a good handle on this monster, or do you need to make some adjustments. Tell me what you think.